Friday:
I was foolish again today, by not clearly saying I wasn't interested in something and therefore extending the whole pointless exchange. Last time I was that gym I didn't like, I didn't want to say that I wasn't going back so the guy rang me twice to chat about it. I could have avoided that by just saying "I've decided no" straight away. I had to say it eventually, and just added extra hassle to the process!
Today it was at the bank. I went in and got that account set up and had a nice chat with the bank lady about our kids and stuff. She asked if we were transferring all our banking to them (no) and started pushing me to (in a nice way), saying they could negotiate various things to get our business. Now I knew straight away I wasn't going to for reasons I didn't divulge to her, and could have avoided a lot of time wasting by saying no thanks clearly. But I was all polite and wishy washy and "I'll think about it" and "I'll talk to my husband" so now she is going to call me in a week or so to see what I've decided! My extreme confrontation avoidance just means delaying the inevitable.
It's not a big deal but I do this too often. It's just silly.
Sometimes I have to remind myself that "NO" is a complete sentence; no explanation is necessary! Hubby and I are planning to spend a few days at a resort where we will be subject to pressure to purchase a timeshare. Hope we can stick with just "no."
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